Christians should watch porn

What All Christian Boys Do
A Normal Christian Young Man

I grew up with the typical Christian upbringing.  Which means that as a young teen, I sometimes went to the supermarket, hung around the magazine wrack, hid the playboy in a Sports magazine and looked at naked girls.  I felt horribly guilty after I had done this, of course.  Because I knew that I had “sinned.”

The Bible says that all have sinned, but does it say that all have sinned in exactly the same way?  So what Christian American boy will tell you that he didn’t do this?  The liars.

I spent much of my Christian teenage years feeling guilty about sex.  About 19 years old or so I managed to stop feeling guilty about masturbation.  But my guilt about my eyes accidentally straying to those girls in tight jeans continued until marriage.  Even after that, I managed to keep myself in a constant state of weepy repentance by picking up a “dirty” magazine from the convenience store every year or so.   Eventually my wife caught me, of course (they always do).  And then my guilt was exacerbated by seeing how badly she was hurt.  Then I was shamed because she took this “sin” to the pastor so that I could get “help” with my “addiction.”

So, all in all, I have had as good of a life as any sincere American Christian male.  Others who were not blessed with a wife like mine, had to deal with their spouse using their “sin” to win arguments.  “Well, I may have wrecked your car, but you looked at porn!”  Some had wives who used this as an excuse to accomplish the wrecking of the marriage that the wife intended to do all along.

Of course, there may be a few Christian men whose wives haven’t caught them yet.

Then there are those sincere Christian men who have never looked at…. hahahahaha.  Sorry, I couldn’t finish that sentence without laughing. No there are a few boys who don’t jack off – but they can be cured with a testosterone shot.

I finally realized that I and every other Christian male were losing this battle because God didn’t intend for us to go without erotica.  In fact, God created erotica.  This was his intent all along.  God likes love and sex.  He intends his people to be aroused by thinking about naked people.  He created boys to think about bobbies and butts.  He knows we think about having sex.  He also knows that the more we think about sex, the more we have sex.  He knows that boys are rubbing one out  and he approves.

Contrary to what you see in the Christian literature out there, a husband and wife who view porn do not cease to have sex with each other, and they do not start having sex with other people.  There are no longitudinal histories which show such a finding.  The studies that are published with the intention of “proving” porn causes sin are all “cross-sectional.”  These studies only prove correlation and not causation.  People with higher sex drives watch more porn and have more sex.  This is a “duh” finding.

God wants young men to watch porn and masturbate.  In so doing, they learn about sex without committing fornication.  If they are taught to respect girls and love them, then they will treat the porn as a promise of what they will get when they get married.  This is how I used porn before I was married, even though I felt guilty about it.   If we produced holy porn, then they would learn how to love women.  This sort of erotica exists, although it is outnumbered by the porn that humiliates women.

God wants young girls to watch “chick flix” and learn how good men romance good women.  They can watch sweet porn and see how they will one day make love with their husband.

Couples who watch porn either singly and together become erotically excited and have more sex.   Despite what the preachers tell you, they do not become estranged from each other.

Now, there is one way in which porn will estrange a couple – if the wife is counseled by the church to fight her husband’s “addiction.”  He will rightly resent her holier-than-thou attitude.  He will continue to act according to the biological mandates that God created him with, and the result is, eventually, a church-caused divorce.

But God’s ideal is a couple who enjoy erotica both together and separately.  A couple who can laugh a sex jokes together and jump in bed and make wild love – or tender love – or just have maintenance sex, preferably 10 to 20 times a week.

Now, there are some people who claim that this doesn’t happen.  They have told and listened to horror stories (that the church created) about the “dangers” of porn that they simply don’t believe that a Solomon-like erotic love like this can exist.  But I can tell you that it can and does.  Once my wife and I surrendered the false traditions that we were raised with, we began living it.  I once estimated that we have had sex between 10 and 20 thousand times in our lives.   Both of us were virgins when we married and have never had sex with anyone else.

God’s plan is erotic love, erotic art, erotic speech, erotic masturbation, and erotic sex between two people who love one another.

 

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