Porn is not Addiction

NOT

Porn is no more an “addiction” than food, sugar, coffee or marital sex.  I say this not as a matter of opinion, but as a psychiatrist and a scientist.

 

People think “addicted” means anything that we use on a regular basis that is difficult or impossible to stop.   And, yes, by this definition porn is an addiction.  Christian men the world over have tried to resist this “tempation” and failed.  If you find a Christian who is declaring his victory, then you and he both know he isn’t victorious, he is just on hiatus.

But addiction requires something more than a need.  Because, as I said before, by this definition coffee, sugar, marital sex, food, and even sleep itself would be addiction.  Yes, there are people (for example diabetics) so addicted to sugar that they continue to use it despite the fact that it is literally killing them.

Addiction requires something else besides regular use, “Continued use DESPITE persistent or recurring social or interpersonal problems caused or made worse by use”

And here is where porn does not meet the definition for most men.  Oh yes, porn does cause difficulty in a marriage with a ball-busting woman raised in the modern feminized church.  But the problem, in that case, is not him, but her.  She is the one who is addicted to her self-righteousness that goes to women’s meetings where they discuss “intimacy issues” and get themselves aroused and then go home to a husband who does not have such a stimulus.  Instead, he goes to men’s meetings where his sexuality is attacked and insulted.  Where he is told to give up red meat and eat only gluten-free food and be a proper little eunuch.

In the normal course of of a healthy and Godly marriage, the man looks at porn 1 to 6 times each week, becomes aroused and makes love to his wife however many times each week that they find time and opportunity to do so.  It doesn’t cause a problem.  He is not unable to attend to his financial, career, or marital duties as a result of his porn use.

Therefore he is not addicted.

Now, I do have patients who look at porn and masturbate all day long, but this is rare and almost universally associated with mental retardation.  It can also be associated with extreme depression, but the problem goes away when you fix the depression.

I do find, however, any number of men who have driven themselves into a depression by the guilt placed upon their sexual behaviors, not by God, and not by the Bible, but rather by the men’s traditions or their church or their wife.

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