I was recently contacted by a young man who wanted me to help him find a way to have internet sex with women. He didn’t want to find a girlfriend and he wasn’t searching for a wife, he just wanted to have meaningless and faceless sex.
I didn’t help him. Because that is not what this site and it’s companion site HolyErotica.com is about.
I maintain these sites (even though I make no money and actually spend money on them) because I believe in Christian marriage, Christian sex, and Christian intimacy.
Like all men, I dreamed of sex from a very young age. I asked God to please not return in the rapture before I could have sex. I was a virgin horn dog. But I didn’t get to kiss a girl until well after high school. The girls probably sensed the hormones coming off of me and ran for their lives.
Because I needed sex so much, I sought desperately for a wife. I found a great one. It turns out that she was just as much of a horny virgin as I was. Otherwise she would never have married a broke college student.
You see, marriage is almost never a practical idea, just a good one. The reason that we got married is because that was the only holy way to get lots and lots of sex.
And it did us well. Marriage is never practical but it is very good for people. It is not practical for a man to have to work long hours because he has responsibilities, but “it is not good for a man to dwell alone.” It is not practical to have a baby with his wife, but it is good for him, his wife, and their child.
The purpose of Holy Erotica is not to provide an alternative to seeking a wife or to having sex with your wife. It is intended to help you be more sexual with the wife that God intends you to have. For single men, it is intended to make you want a wife more and too seek one out. “He that FINDETH a wife findeth a good thing.” And FINDING requires SEARCHING. Porn with masturbation does not DECREASE a man’s desire for a woman. It doesn’t “drain his balls” and “give him relief.” Did you honestly think it did? It makes him want a woman. If he is a Christian, it makes him want a wife.
Having said all of that. I know that almost all of the readers are yelling at their computer screen – “BUT THAT ISN’T THE WAY IT WORKS ANYMORE” I know that. I am a psychiatrist and I hear stories daily that would give you nightmares. I know that this is not 1950 anymore. I realize that people can find sex easily. They can buy it within a few hours and with a little more effort they can use the online apps to find hookups. Quality sex robots are only months away.
Here is the key, the Bible was not written in 1950. The ancient world had pervasive sexuality also. Slaves had no rights and could be used at will. Temple prostitutes were cheap. Privacy was non-existent and nudity abounded. Yet Paul tells the Corinthians “Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.” (I Cor 6:15) In the midst of the Vegas of the ancient world. God expected people to live like they were in 1950’s America.
I like sex. I like to watch videos about sex, read stories about sex, and look at pictures of sex and sexy people. This has done me well, because I have a great wife who I can be sexually intimate with. We are close and become closer because of all of the sex that we have. This is the purpose of erotica, this is the purpose of sex, and this is the purpose of marriage.