For Holy Porn

So this article is how  porn has destroyed the lives of the actors and actresses.  I agree, many people have been destroyed by participating in porn.  But why is this?  Is it because erotica is bad, or is it because Christians have turned over this powerful tool to the sinners.

The Netflix movie “When porn Ends”  explores what happens in the lives of the porn actors and actresses.  Some of them have bad lives.

But WHY do they have bad lives.  Because the porn industry is “sinful” that is, the Christian churches have decided that you cannot be a Christian and be erotic (or masculine).

What if, just what if, we actually lived the life of the early Christians and Jews.  What if we had their attitude toward sex.  That sex within marriage was not only good, it was also not something to be hidden.  That seeing nudity (or being naked in public, like they often were) was not “public indecency”

Could Christian married couples make films that inluded porn and erotica, that showed them in holy sex.  Couldn’t we have a film that depicted married sex (without editing) as holy, that treated adultery (which could be depicted on scene with married actors) as something that would lead to sorrow and death.  Couldn’t we have #HolyPorn

Yes, right now that is not in existence.  But it could be, and it could be done quickly by any young Christian filmmaker who wanted to make a name for himself.

God wrote Porn

It’s time for all of these anti-porn Christians to admit that the Bible is full of “porn” (meaning erotica).

Oh, didn’t you love the Children’s song.  “His Banner over me is Love”

Um, folks.  A banner is on a um, pole.  So, the lover took his love into the “banqueting” room and provided her a “banner” to eat.

Then note this passage.

Song of Solomon 5:4 My beloved put in his hand by the hole of the door, and my bowels were moved for him.  I rose up to open to my beloved; and my hands dropped with myrrh, and my fingers with sweet smelling myrrh, upon the handles of the lock. I opened to my beloved; but my beloved had withdrawn himself.

The Myrrh, here folks is not an herb, and the hole of the door is not made of wood.

And those references to Lily’s and gardens of lilies.  Folks, he wasn’t talking about flowers.


Losing both sides of the masculinity Debate

Heat Street has this article out

It is frustrating that this article is a surrender to both sides of the masculinity debate.

On the one side, we have boys being told to “not treat girls like sex objects.”

Hate to tell you this, but the reason that boys treat girls like sex objects is because they have cojones.  Until we create a race of people who sexless men, boys will always use the nearest girl for his masturbatory fantasy.  The horror of expecting boys to not think about girls as sex objects is happening on both sides of the “culture war”.  James Dobson expects boys to jerk off without thinking about girls.  On the other side, the Social Justice Warriors want boys to not be boys at all, but little eunuchs who only provide sperm down at the bank for properly informed lesbian couples to use to create “Heather has two mommies” properly socialized families.

On the other side, boys are allowed to use terms like “THOT” (that ho over there) because they are not being taught that you can sexually desire a female and still treat her with respect.

I don’t know about you, but I think Jesse Jane, Carter Cruise, and Riley Reid (if you don’t want to look at nekkid women, don’t do a google search on those names) deserve to be treated with respect just like my wife and daughter.  My Mama taught me never to use insulting terms about ANY woman.

To love and erotically desire women and still treat them with respect is the essence of masculinity.

The emasculating wife

Here is another example of a woman trying to make her husband a girl.  It’s not enough to have a faithful husband who loves her with all of her heart, works hard, supports the family, raises the kids, goes to church, loves God and would never, ever cheat on her, either in his heart, mind, or body.  No, he has to deny his manhood and cut off his balls for her.  He has to pretend that he doesn’t like looking at nekkid wemmin

It’s sad that the church backs this.  It is the biggest reason why the churches are empty of men above the age of 13.  Thank God my wife wants me to be a man.

Wifey Wednesday: Is Porn Cheating?


Church Ladies: Stop Feminizing Christ

Church Lady

The church was full last Sunday.  HUNDREDS of people worshiping God.

And DOZENS of men.

Why have the men abandoned church?  I submit that American evangelical religion has been feminized.  When the church gets around to preaching Normal behavior of men has been criminalized.

Going fishing with a cooler of beer and talking about women is sinful; looking at naked women is the “number one sin issue facing the church today.”  But a women’s “retreat” discussing “intimacy issues” with a wine and cheese social afterwards is “a good example of how the church can relate to the modern family.”

We can get a special church meeting together to discuss the “health” issues of weight loss, but when is the last time that the church organized a trip to a cage fight.  But I’ll guarantee you that men doing Mixed Martial Arts training are pretty damn healthy.

This Christian blogger condemns the Bible and himself at the same time

Here’s another example of a poor guy who is trying to overcome his regular porn habit by being spiritual about how other people shouldn’t do it.

Here’s his anti-porn argument.  After explicitly including audio, visual, text, pictures, or animation he says

“using porningraphy we are bringing people and activities outside of a Godly marriage into our sex lives, which God has bounded by marriage and love”

How nice that he has added a new command to the Bible. The Bible says nothing about not hearing, seeing, talking about, or drawing sex scenes or the human body.  In fact, in contradiction to this it clearly talks about all of these things, itself.  Solomon is a great sinner this way. But not just Solomon, but GOD HIMSELF becomes a pornographer by his argument, since, remember, all scripture is GOD-BREATHED. But not just Solomon but even Moses becomes a pornographer “And Adam Knew His Wife”  A useless bit of information since it states that Eve got pregnant.

The “Knight” then makes a little better of an argument.  “Much of what is depicted in porn is expressly forbidden by God. ”  Ok, then. We didn’t like ungodly books, so we encouraged some Christians to write Godly books. We got Grace Livingston Hill, Janette Oke etc etc.

But no, the Knight declares, this isn’t good enough because even if we watch a Godly married couple having sex we are somehow committing adultery with them.  Why, because of what is going on in OUR minds.  And here is where the Knight condemns himself.  He states that the man watching porn thinks

“I wish I was there with her, I wish my spouse would do that, I wish my spouse was that fit…”

That’s pretty amazing that he has read my mind this was, because the fact is that I DON’T THINK ANY OF THESE THINGS.   Oh yes, I admire a fine figured woman and I appreciate a beautiful actresses face.  I even admire a guy who has a fine-chiseled chest.  But I don’t want to dump my wife (or my wife to dump me) to get these things.

On the other hand, this guy sure knows a lot about what a man is thinking when he watches porn.. I wonder how he figured that all out…

Let’s face it, because he has ( and don’t lie, DOES ) porn on a not irregular basis. Oh I’m sure he feels very, very guilty about it.   He spends a lot of his time being very judgmental about porn as a result.   Maybe he ought to give up his attempts to stop watching porn and spend more time trying to love his wife.

He then goes onto advice about how to overcome this problem in himself.  Notice that all of his actions are physical. He puts filters on his computer, he goes and confesses at celebrate recovery.  If he really believed that God was so against porn, don’t you think God would help him overcome.

The fact is that God does not lead us into temptation that we can’t bear.  The fact that so many (let’s face, every male with very rare pathological exceptions) Christians cannot live above this “sin” should prove something – even if the Bible’s explicit endorsement of erotic literature in Song of Solomon wasn’t enough.


Remember, Honey, I’m still a guy

I'm Still A Guy

One of the most annoying modern movements of today is the emasculation of men.  I would be less annoyed about it if only it weren’t the Christian women who are the worst at it.

God created men.  He likes masculinity.  He likes a men to get dirty, greasy, to mow their lawns shirtless and sweaty.  To act like Tommy Lee Jones when they are challenged.

And you know what.  Men like to look at naked women.  Always have, always will.  And God doesn’t mind that at all.

How to destroy a sincere Christian young man


Look how these good Christian sisters – Sisters who believe that they are trying to change the anti-sex reflex of Christianity destroy this honest young man.

He asks how he can find a wife who will be assured of a wife who will meet his sexual needs.  He “confesses” to masturbating every day and giving in to the “temptation” of porn.  Instead of helping him, they proceed to destroy his confidence in his faith. They tell him that he is not ready for marriage because he cannot “control” his porn “addiction”.

Again, this is a case where Christians directly contradict the Bible in trying to turn men into feminized, emasculated imitation of a man.  I Corinthians 7 tells us that marriage is for the purpose of directing the normal, biological drives. “It is better to marry than to burn.”  Yet these emasculating women tell him he shouldn’t get married until he can “control” himself.

Folks, stop trying to turn everyone into your idolatrous image of God and let God do his own work.

Giving our whole lives fighting a battle God never asked us to join


This poor guy is determined to help men be better Christians.

One blog EVERY Christian couple needs to read about PORN addictions

Giving our whole life to fight against what?  Not against lust, the guy has no desire to cheat on his wife.  He has no desire to commit adultery.  No he is fighting against something that God made his body to do – look at and become aroused at the sight and description of females and sex with females.

What is the poor Christian man to do who falls for this “commandment of men.”  Will he have to imitate the sad church father Origin and cut off his own balls?

Why Tempt God?

Peter, talking to the council at Jerusalem in Acts 15:10 said, “Now therefore why tempt ye God, to put a yoke upon the neck of the disciples, which neither our fathers nor we were able to bear?”

Let’s face it, guys, this commandment to fight erotic arousal has burdened the church and caused it to become 80% female, because no man can bear it.  We are fighting against nature and frankly, we are fighting against God when we command men to act against their own biology.

Am I just rationalizing my bad behavior?

So, I have to ask myself – Am I just making this argument because I want to look at porn and still go to church and identify as a Christian.

Yes – and No.

I believe in Veritas – in Truth.  I believe in Truth when it hurts me.  But I also believe in it when the Truth, “sets me free.”

I lived for decades attempting to control my erotic impulses.  I felt guilty each time I indulged.  My wife and I had many a tearful confession time.  I did not, during those decades, attempt to rationalize my behavior or excuse it.  I attempted to pray, to become more holy, to redirect my desires in “holy” directions.  I memorized dozens of chapters of the Bible to quote during times of temptation.

Why didn’t I examine the Bible and see if all of my unsuccessful efforts were unnecessary?  Because – of course – I didn’t want to simply justify my bad behavior by scriptural reinterpretation.

But, sometimes, just sometimes, the reason I am fighting so hard and failing is because God never intended me to fight that battle in the first place.


Letting the anti-porn people have their chance

This website argues against Christian erotica. He does as good of a job as can be done – meaning he does very poorly, indeed.…/

His argument is that “sex should only be shared between a husband and a wife.” The author is being deceitful here. He gets you to agree to add this word “only” and it seems reasonable. He then interprets the word maximally and pretends that you have agreed to this maximal interpretation.

So he says that masturbation is wrong because it is not shared between a husband and a wife. Stories of a virgin Christian couple’s honeymoon night is just a “lesser” evil because it is not shared “only” between a husband and wife.

So he has made his own reducto ad absurdum here. Masturbation was not discovered suddenly during Woodstock in 1969. It has been around since Adam took his first shower underneath the garden’s waterfall. Yet, somehow, God never thought it was important enough to include it in his very specific lists of forbidden sexual activities. Similarly, the author forbids publication of a married couples sex stories, but finds excuses for why the Song of Solomon is somehow only “informative” and not erotic.

As a psychiatrist, I understand what this poor guy is doing. He has a strong delusion. A fixed, false belief that is not subject to the normal restrictions of logic and reasoning. “Being aroused without a wife is wrong.” He knows that he is often aroused by sexual thoughts. He is engaging in the defense mechanisms of isolation, intellectualization, rationalization and deflection/denial to keep himself from admitting his problem. Because he is only “informing” his readers about sexual sin, he can become aroused during this discussion without feeling guilty. He then goes and humps his wife while feeling holy.


Guys, God said that when you jack off – take a shower and wash your shorts.

Leviticus 15:16 And if any man’s seed of copulation go out from him, then he shall wash all his flesh in water, and be unclean until the even.
17 And every garment, and every skin, whereon is the seed of copulation, shall be washed with water, and be unclean until the even.
18 The woman also with whom man shall lie with seed of copulation, they shall both bathe themselves in water, and be unclean until the even.

In other words, masturbation and couple sex is treated EXACTLY THE SAME WAY.

Masturbation was not suddenly discovered at Woodstock in 1969. It has been around since Adam took his first shower in Eden’s waterfall. If God had a problem with it, he would have told us.

Oh, what peace we often forfeit. Oh, what needless pain we bear

Flagellating ourselves over Godly behavior
I must overcome my natural God-given love of porn

In the attached link, a sincere Christian man is teaching other men how to fight down their “lust” (meaning their sexual desires). Look at how wide a battle front he must fight on. He forbids girls to let their thighs show. He forbids dancing. He forbids men to take off our shirts to swim. He has accepted the world’s definition that lasciviousness (lustful desire) is the same thing as erotic arousal.

So he declares war on Sex. Like Don Quixote he goes out to tilt at windmills, “To dream the impossible dream and fight the unbeatable foe, to march into hell for a heavenly cause.”

Now, it is true that you might be able to turn yourself into a barely sexual being, someone capable of siring children, but unable to sustain a hot, passionate relationship throughout life. The strategy is to starve the beast. Forbid any sexual thought, Turn your eyes away from every piece of exposed skin. Spend your entire emotional energy on one single goal – fight against erotic arousal. Let the beast out only in a dark bedroom – preferably under sheets with pajamas nearby.

It is even better if you live in a walled-in compound with women who all agree to help you never see any “immodest” apparel.

You might even succeed. If you do, then you have my pity. What’s more, you don’t have God’s help in your fight.

But you will probably lose, and badly, just as all the other sincere Christian men who have been trying this strategy for the past 50 years have been losing. How many good sisters have been blanketed in quilted clothes for decades in the name of helping men fight this unconquerable beast? And how many times have they been horrified to discover the internet search history he forgot to hide. How much money was spent on “dirty” magazines that were then thrown in the trash in an orgy of guilt after the underwear were washed?

Because LUST IS NOT EROTIC AROUSAL. Lust is the desire, intent, or plan to seduce a woman that is not yours. But if a man is aroused with the intent of fulfilling his desire in a lawful way, then his arousal is not lust, it is not lascivious and it is not sin.

Jesus was nude in public (on purpose)

Jesus was naked in front of hundreds of people when the voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved son in whom I am well-pleased”

I have proof.

Yes, I know you can’t believe it. Our nudity taboo is so bred into us since Victorian times that it rises to the level of delusion. But the early Christians were baptized naked. The men who were told the story by people who were there (people who lived in the 1st and 2nd centuries) all painted pictures of Christ naked during his baptism. Yes, completely naked, locker room shower naked. It wasn’t until centuries later that we got more holy than Jesus.

Here is a good link to a page that does a good job listing the evidence.…/early-church-baptism-was…

This guy is so offended by the truth that he descends into the “No True Scotsman” logical fallacy in order to disprove it.…

Avert your eyes! Dominoes Pizza Commercial!

During an NFL game, Domino’s pizza runs a commercial showing a tasty pizza. My desire for pizza is inflamed. I call Dominoes and order pizzas for me and all my living room friends who showed up for the plasma screen. I didn’t “lust” after the pizza. I didn’t break into Dominoes and steal the pizza that was shown. Instead, I followed the lawful process of obtaining the pizza that I could afford and was available to me. I had no intention of breaking the law to obtain the pizza. So it was not lust. It was desire. It was, in fact, normal and even Godly desire.

Now, during the same game, an internet hosting company runs a commercial with a girl in a wet tee shirt (you know the one I am talking about).  My desire for sex is inflamed.  After the game I go to the bedroom with my wife and make love.  I didn’t attempt to contact the girl on the screen. I didn’t want to break into the internet company’s headquarters and kidnap her for my own.  I did not break my morals to fulfill my desire.

Please tell me the difference?