“Christian Naturism” (Nudists) are wrong, But Holy Erotica is right

 

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While I believe that erotic videos and sexual depictions are normal and should be a part of a normal Christian life, I do not believe that Naturism or the nudist lifestyle is normal.  Here is why.

In 2012, ABC news ran a piece on Growing Up Nudist about a nudist camp where families live full-time.  The article makes nudism sound natural and good.   It sounds like these people live in the Garden of Eden.  There are a lot of Christian Naturist sites that promote this lifestyle.

The usual rap against the naturists are that they are “immodest.”  That somehow they are encouraging swinging and fornication.  Firstly, this isn’t true, or it is only true for people that have grown up with a nudity taboo that equates nakedness with sex (that includes most Americans) but it is possible to raise children with a different attitude.

I have a different take.  It is impossible to read the Bible without realizing that nakedness was shameful.  But I do not believe that this shamefulness was related to sex.  The people of the ancient world saw naked people and slaves all of the time.  Poor people often did not have clothes and they certainly didn’t have privacy.  They did not get to bathe alone – or even in the presence of only the same sex.  David was excited by the body of Bathsheba while she was bathing because she was beautiful.  It was not considered abnormal for her to be bathing on the housetop.    The mere sight of a breast would not excite biblical people.  There were no titty bars in the ancient world, there were only brothels.    The attire of a harlot related to the color, cut, and ornaments of the woman, not her nakedness.   Nakedness was shameful because it showed poverty.

But there is a reason that nakedness is bad.  I just came across this passage in the book, “The Brother’s K.” In it a harelipped girl is praying in church.

“Nyearest Nyeesus!” she calls out, her voice, her whole body quivering. “Nank nyou!, nank nyou!, for yall nyour nyimmy nyimmy nmlessings, nand for nthis nay of Nhristian Nyellowshipt!” At the words nyimmy nyimmy Micah uncorks a snicker—and there are lots of answering snorts today. Maybe there always are. Maybe I just hear them today because I’m stuck next to her. My stomach clenches. Most of me wants to snort with the others, but part of me, remembering the pool in the kingdom, makes me gouge my knuckles in my eye sockets and fight to hear her prayer, “Mlease, nLord!” Vera cries, as if she’s pleading with an ax murderer. “Mlease fornivvus our snins and nrespassenth! Nwee are nso nunworthy, nso nvery nvery nunworthy!” Noses blow violently; half-stifled giggles circle the room like pigeons trapped in a barn. Beal keeps his head bowed, but clears his throat and steps threateningly around his podium. “Nopen our narts, nwee veseech nThee!” Vera prays.

“Nyelp us to nlove nyou nmore and nmore!” she prays as Micah laughs outright, “and nmore and nmore!” she pleads as girls grab Kleenex, “and snill nyet nmore!” she begs as boys fizz up and overflow like jostled bottles of pop. “Nenter our narts!” she cries, her voice breaking, her body trembling so violently it makes my chair tremble too. “Nenter nthem now! Nright now! Nwee are nso nlost, nso nvery nlost, nwithout nThee!” And even as it occurs to me that this must be real prayer—even as I see that what is being laughed at is the sound of someone actually ramming a heartfelt message past all the crossed signals and mazes of our bodies, brains and embarrassments clear on in to her God—when I open my fists and peek at Vera I see a face so exposed, so twisted with love, grief and longing, that if she was my sister I would take off my coat, and I’d wrap her up and hold her, and I would beg her never, ever to do this naked, passionate, impossible thing again.

 

Duncan, David James. The Brothers K (p. 85). Random House Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

The girl is showing the ultimate nudity, not the nakedness of the body, but of the soul.  She was “naked before God.”  In a sense she was bathing her soul, and while this is a wonderful experience in private, it is horrible to see in public.

No one wants other people to know their hidden flaws

Adam and Eve “saw that they were naked.”   They realized that they had been living without law and without morality, that they were little better than animals.  Their immediate response was to cover themselves.  And we still cover ourselves today, not just in our physical bodies, but in our outward show of our innermost person.   We call other people “hypocrites” when they fail to live up to their standards, but few of us wish to live in a public confessional booth.  It is a normal and healthy desire to want to hide our imperfections and failures from other humans – even if we are willing to tell them to God.  There is a reason why the Catholic priests are so defensive of the “seal of the confessional.”

Not having been to a nude beach, I don’t know personally, but I have heard that it is not a pretty sight.  I do know that the true “amateur porn” – the homemade kind – is very, very ugly.   If I wanted to see pimple-covered buttocks that close I would use a mirror.

During one of my medicine rotations, I was informed that I would have to do a genital examination.  I told my preceptor that “We psychiatrists see more genitals than we examine.”   And that is true.  Many of my sickest patients attempt to run around naked, it is a big problem on the psych ward.

The reason for this is that psychotic people have boundary issues.  They cannot tell where their souls and the souls of other people should be separated.  They have unlimited sex; they run around naked; they masturbate in public.  They have no sense of where their lives end and where the lives of others start.

This is what Revelations is talking about:

Rev 3:18 I counsel thee to buy of me .. white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear

“Alright,” you say, “you have said why people shouldn’t show their nakedness to others.  Then why in the world, Dr. Ed, would you say that holy erotica (Christian Porn) can exist.”

Because Erotica, when it is properly done, is anything but naked.   Have you ever seen Playboy’s “Adult Film School” tv series?  In it, a porn producer brings in amateur couple who have made a home sex video and were unsatisfied with it.  She helps them to produce high quality Erotica.

In their home film, the couple are merely naked, but the professional film is highly erotic.

In his song, King Solomon tells the tale of a loving couple.  He describes their bodies in great detail and the sex acts that they perform.  But it is not merely telling of nude sex, rather he is telling of ideal love and ideal love-making with ideal people.   He is portraying God’s view of what perfect sex should be.

Some people are beginning to product this sort of erotica

This, I believe, is appropriate.  In high-quality erotica, the people don’t have on clothes, but neither are they truly “naked.”  In fact, they are made-up, airbrushed, and idealized.  Their flaws are not displayed.  I have links to this sort of erotica at my website HolyErotica.com  To go back to my “Naked before God” metaphor, they are not praying “Nyearest Nyeesus” but rather the Book of Common Prayer.

Now, in fact, the regular sex of a loving husband and wife is wonderful because it is infused with their love.  Even the quick sleepy sex from a nocturnal boner is sweet because my wife gives herself to me unsparingly, even if she starts snoring before I orgasm.   But this would be extremely UNattractive to strangers watching.

So, no, I do not believe that Christian Naturism is a healthy movement (although it is not by nature Ungodly), but Holy Erotica is good.

Why Christian Erotica is about holiness and not fornication

The purpose of Christian Erotica is to increase Christian Marital Sex and Intimacy

I was recently contacted by a young man who wanted me to help him find a way to have internet sex with women.  He didn’t want to find a girlfriend and he wasn’t searching for a wife, he just wanted to have meaningless and faceless sex.

I didn’t help him.  Because that is not what this site and it’s companion site HolyErotica.com is about.

I maintain these sites (even though I make no money and actually spend money on them) because I believe in Christian marriage, Christian sex, and  Christian intimacy.

Like all men, I dreamed of sex from a very young age.  I asked God to please not return in the rapture before I could have sex.  I was a virgin horn dog.  But I didn’t get to kiss a girl until well after high school.   The girls probably sensed the hormones coming off of me and ran for their lives.

Because I needed sex so much, I sought desperately for a wife.  I found a great one.    It turns out that she was just as much of a horny virgin as I was.   Otherwise she would never have married a broke college student.

You see, marriage is almost never a practical idea, just a good one.    The reason that we got married is because that was the only holy way to get lots and lots of sex.

And it did us well.  Marriage is never practical but it is very good for people.  It is not practical for a man to have to work long hours because he has responsibilities, but “it is not good for a man to dwell alone.”   It is not practical to have a baby with his wife, but it is good for him, his wife, and their child.

The purpose of Holy Erotica is not to provide an alternative to seeking a wife or to having sex with your wife.  It is intended to help you be more sexual with the wife that God intends you to have.   For single men, it is intended to make you want a wife more and too seek one out.  “He that FINDETH a wife findeth a good thing.”  And FINDING requires SEARCHING.  Porn with masturbation does not DECREASE a man’s desire for a woman.  It doesn’t “drain his balls” and “give him relief.”  Did you honestly think it did?  It makes him want a woman.  If he is a Christian, it makes him want a wife.

Having said all of that.  I know that almost all of the readers are yelling at their computer screen – “BUT THAT ISN’T THE WAY IT WORKS ANYMORE”   I know that.  I am a psychiatrist and I hear stories daily that would give you nightmares.  I know that this is not 1950 anymore.  I realize that people can find sex easily.  They can buy it  within a few hours and with a little more effort they can use the online apps to find hookups.  Quality sex robots are only months away.

Here is the key, the Bible was not written in 1950.  The ancient world had pervasive sexuality also.  Slaves had no rights and could be used at will.  Temple prostitutes were cheap.   Privacy was non-existent and nudity abounded.    Yet Paul tells the Corinthians “Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.” (I Cor 6:15)  In the midst of the Vegas of the ancient world.    God expected people to live like they were in 1950’s America.

I like sex.  I like to watch videos about sex, read stories about sex, and look at pictures of sex and sexy people.    This has done me well, because I have a great wife who I can be sexually intimate with.  We are close and become closer because of all of the sex that we have.  This is the purpose of erotica, this is the purpose of sex, and this is the purpose of marriage.

Religion versus Christianity

During Jesus’ ministry, he was not the most HOLY person around.  Christianity is not like today’s Republican politics, where the person who can claim to be the most conservative wins the prize.   Christianity consists of loving Christ and growing in health together with him.

Today’s Pharisee position is that erotica is wrong.  This is the “holy” position.  It doesn’t matter that the Bible doesn’t back that position.  All that matters is that being against erotica is Religious and Holy.

But if a man truly wants to be in tune with Christ, he should stop trying so hard to fight against the erotic nature that God intended him to have.  Instead of fighting this “temptation” he ought to shape it and mold it into the image of Christ.   He should encourage his erotic nature to direct itself toward females and in particular one female – his current or future wife.  “Porn” (more properly called Erotica) is a natural and holy part of that.

Best of Christian Erotica 12/8/17

For Christian men who want to see high quality erotica that includes only loving couples making love – here are my favorite posts of the week.

I hope you brought you wife some flowers home today!   Here are some links to get you up and randy for a night of sex with the woman God gave you.

Organ Grinder music video Contains only couples making sweet wonderful love

Bring roses for your wife wearing tight jeans

She turns herself on with masturbation before sex with  her husband

His wife is really, really good at fellatio (Background music included)

Jesse Jane, a tropical beach and beautiful music.  What else is there to say?

Enjoy.  And remember to make love to your wife (Not just have sex) daily!  If you don’t have one – seek a good one and obtain favor from the Lord.

Christians should watch porn

What All Christian Boys Do
A Normal Christian Young Man

I grew up with the typical Christian upbringing.  Which means that as a young teen, I sometimes went to the supermarket, hung around the magazine wrack, hid the playboy in a Sports magazine and looked at naked girls.  I felt horribly guilty after I had done this, of course.  Because I knew that I had “sinned.”

The Bible says that all have sinned, but does it say that all have sinned in exactly the same way?  So what Christian American boy will tell you that he didn’t do this?  The liars.

I spent much of my Christian teenage years feeling guilty about sex.  About 19 years old or so I managed to stop feeling guilty about masturbation.  But my guilt about my eyes accidentally straying to those girls in tight jeans continued until marriage.  Even after that, I managed to keep myself in a constant state of weepy repentance by picking up a “dirty” magazine from the convenience store every year or so.   Eventually my wife caught me, of course (they always do).  And then my guilt was exacerbated by seeing how badly she was hurt.  Then I was shamed because she took this “sin” to the pastor so that I could get “help” with my “addiction.”

So, all in all, I have had as good of a life as any sincere American Christian male.  Others who were not blessed with a wife like mine, had to deal with their spouse using their “sin” to win arguments.  “Well, I may have wrecked your car, but you looked at porn!”  Some had wives who used this as an excuse to accomplish the wrecking of the marriage that the wife intended to do all along.

Of course, there may be a few Christian men whose wives haven’t caught them yet.

Then there are those sincere Christian men who have never looked at…. hahahahaha.  Sorry, I couldn’t finish that sentence without laughing. No there are a few boys who don’t jack off – but they can be cured with a testosterone shot.

I finally realized that I and every other Christian male were losing this battle because God didn’t intend for us to go without erotica.  In fact, God created erotica.  This was his intent all along.  God likes love and sex.  He intends his people to be aroused by thinking about naked people.  He created boys to think about bobbies and butts.  He knows we think about having sex.  He also knows that the more we think about sex, the more we have sex.  He knows that boys are rubbing one out  and he approves.

Contrary to what you see in the Christian literature out there, a husband and wife who view porn do not cease to have sex with each other, and they do not start having sex with other people.  There are no longitudinal histories which show such a finding.  The studies that are published with the intention of “proving” porn causes sin are all “cross-sectional.”  These studies only prove correlation and not causation.  People with higher sex drives watch more porn and have more sex.  This is a “duh” finding.

God wants young men to watch porn and masturbate.  In so doing, they learn about sex without committing fornication.  If they are taught to respect girls and love them, then they will treat the porn as a promise of what they will get when they get married.  This is how I used porn before I was married, even though I felt guilty about it.   If we produced holy porn, then they would learn how to love women.  This sort of erotica exists, although it is outnumbered by the porn that humiliates women.

God wants young girls to watch “chick flix” and learn how good men romance good women.  They can watch sweet porn and see how they will one day make love with their husband.

Couples who watch porn either singly and together become erotically excited and have more sex.   Despite what the preachers tell you, they do not become estranged from each other.

Now, there is one way in which porn will estrange a couple – if the wife is counseled by the church to fight her husband’s “addiction.”  He will rightly resent her holier-than-thou attitude.  He will continue to act according to the biological mandates that God created him with, and the result is, eventually, a church-caused divorce.

But God’s ideal is a couple who enjoy erotica both together and separately.  A couple who can laugh a sex jokes together and jump in bed and make wild love – or tender love – or just have maintenance sex, preferably 10 to 20 times a week.

Now, there are some people who claim that this doesn’t happen.  They have told and listened to horror stories (that the church created) about the “dangers” of porn that they simply don’t believe that a Solomon-like erotic love like this can exist.  But I can tell you that it can and does.  Once my wife and I surrendered the false traditions that we were raised with, we began living it.  I once estimated that we have had sex between 10 and 20 thousand times in our lives.   Both of us were virgins when we married and have never had sex with anyone else.

God’s plan is erotic love, erotic art, erotic speech, erotic masturbation, and erotic sex between two people who love one another.