So, it is my position that Christian men can view what is considered pornography (wrongly called, it should be erotica) without being wrong. I say this for three reasons. Firstly, holy erotica is God-ordained and inspired. Secondly, it is healthy. Thirdly, sincere holy men have been looking at “dirty” art for thousands of years without our religion being destroyed.
Firstly, Erotica is God-ordained. The Bible includes everything necessary for a Christian life. God knew that people would be angry at life’s injustices, so he put in the book of Job. He knew that people would question him, so he put in many of the Psalms and the book of Habakkuk. He knew that people would feel hopeless as they approached old age, so he put in the book of Ecclesiastes. Proverbs is filled with miscellaneous advice on thousands of important subjects.
And God knew that single people should be reminded how wonderful married love is, and he knew that married people would need to encourage their sexual desire so that it would not become humdrum. So he put in the play of the Song of Solomon that includes nudity, erotica, and explicit sexual imagery. Solomon had this play performed live in his court – in short – he had live sex shows, since video hadn’t been invented yet. God included this “porn” (actually erotica) in his Bible for a reason. That reason is to inform us that in our railing against adulter and fornication we should not forget that marital sex was invented by God for the pleasure of his people.
Secondly, Erotica is healthy. Despite what you read about from non-physician, non-psychiatrist, pseudo-experts like “YourBrainOnPorn” Gary Wilson; studies do NOT show that your brain is harmed by viewing erotica. In fact, a recent study showed that couples who overcome the imposed guilt of the legalistic churches were drawn closer together, even if the erotica was viewed alone. If brains were truly damaged so badly by porn, then the 70% of men who ADMIT that the view porn regularly and the 29% who lie about it would be wandering the streets waiting to murder and rape women. And yet, most marriages seem to survive and thrive in spite of these poor husbands’ brains being destroyed. We would like to provide a study showing that marriages survive more when men view porn, but we can’t find any men who don’t watch porn. The “Porn Addiction” so much quoted by these pseudo-experts simply doesn’t exist, which is why the psychiatrists did not include it as a diagnosis in the newly released Diagnostic Statistical Manual 5(DSM5). Vegetarians want to define bacon as an addiction, and the new puritans want to define erotica as an addiction. Neither is.
Thirdly, sincere Christian men are already viewing porn. Yes, I know, Christians sin all the time. But if the Holy Spirit is really guiding ANY Christians and God hates porn so much, then SOME of them should be overcoming. Yet the studies show that there is no difference between the porn viewing habits of proclaiming Christians and non-believers. That is because God is not helping men to overcome an act that he never forbade.
The church, dominated the dear sisters who don’t understand the biological desire that God gave all men keep trying to accomplish the impossible. The natural result is a church empty of men. Pastors who counsel marital couples when the husbands porn “addiction” is discovered actually destroy the marriage.
Oh what peace we often forfeit, Oh what needless pain we bear. All because we do not trust that Jesus, the eternal word of God, actually knew what he saying when he said:
Prov 5:19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.